Will cut the bull crap here and get straight to the point. Or as in this case, the question:
What’s worse – when your lover leaves you because they have fallen out of love OR when they walk away because they can no longer handle the external pressure (example; family, society, friends, etc)?
For the longest time I believed that nothing could be worse than the first scenario. I mean think about it; you make someone fall in love with you and then be capable enough to make them fall out of love with you. Yes agreed it is a reality of many broken relationships but honestly I never thought this would ever happen with me. Seriously, who could fall out of love with ME? I mean it is ME they are in love with.
Yup yup, this inflated was my ego. Then BANG! And by Gawd what a reality check it was.
But then I have firsthand experience in the second scenario as well. And no, I am not referring to countless Bollywood flicks on the same topic, I have watched over the years. However I have noticed that people are somewhat sympathetic towards breakers (the ones who initiate the breakup) of this type-situation. Often you hear them saying – He/she madly loved her/him but sacrificed it for family ….I at times find it amusing though. I mean, is it really that easy to make heroes out of ordinary folks?
On comparing the two I see this – For me both situations had been equally miserable. The pain was intense and life felt like an absolute dump. After all a break up is a break up is a break up. And they are never easy.
But do I blame the other…..Nope. How come? Because I am a saint who firmly believes that there are plenty of other fishes in the sea. * wink * * wink *
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fas
Jun 4th, 2009 at 6:08 pm | #
Saks you were in a relationship before. No wonder your so against the M word.!!
Arti
Jun 5th, 2009 at 1:06 pm | #
According to me the second scenario is worst. Many reasons / explanations but the most important is that when someone says that in spite of being in love he/she had to succumb to the pressure you cannot really know that the person is being honest. There might be a dark side to it … you never know.
In first case, at least the person is being honest! “Sorry … I have ‘fallen’ out of love”
Anyways, a break up is a break up IS a break up!
GBU
Arti
Anaggh A. Desai
Jun 6th, 2009 at 6:41 am | #
You go on! Remember the saying……Like a bus there’s another one coming. Have fun
Sameer Panchangam
Jun 7th, 2009 at 12:14 pm | #
Yeah.. like you’ve titled the post – Gyaan.. its gyaan/leaning for life!
rads
Jun 7th, 2009 at 12:21 pm | #
Your last line cracked me up from that sober post. Yes, you are right, lotsa fishes in the ocean, new adventures and focusing ahead and not looking back’s probably a very smart practical thing to do.
Analysing the why is excrutiatingly painful. I doubt there’s any clarity coming out f it, despite popular opinion. At the end of the day the fact remains that the situation’s morphed.
Me thinks ‘whatever’ should be the mantra …
Piyush
Jun 10th, 2009 at 7:00 am | #
Hi,
I dont agree with your last line. There are so many fishes in the market but….this but is the biggest pain and issue here.
One thing I want to ask u … wht is this ego? when we know this can give us too much pain n might be we lost ur best life partner why can’t still we able to get rid of this CRAP thing.
BR,
Piyush
Punsons
Jul 20th, 2009 at 3:15 pm | #
It is true that madly loved make sacrificed it for family.