Closure

i second that!
And we hope that the doors to that dumping space open only to put more things in and dont let some old stuff out!

Btw.. reminds me of the Richard Bach book : Running from Safety

Deepseas

Pain ! Pain ! Pain !
Isnt it ?

i think it is all about the choices we make. And when we choose to move on; we do move on. But when resist; we need these empty spaces your friend talked about ! living with the dented emotions would mean living in the past .
saks, life is what we make of it . don’t u think so ?

If time doesn’t work on your wounds, try vodka.

You’re right. There is no such thing as closure for matters of the heart. But why the confusion here? I thought it was always so. Did you really believe that there will be a time that you will sit in a business-like fashion with the other person, sort it out and say “Well, glad we did that. No issues now”?

And yet, time does heal wounds. Not due to closure, but due to one engaging oneself in too many other people or activities (sometimes even a couple of them are sufficient). Can you remember the worst quarrel you had in time of School? I don’t. And yet, there must have been a “worst quarrel” sometime, probably with a very close friend.

The present is always what matters most. The near past and the near future matter next. Other things are as good as non-existent while you have something to do right now.

The “empty space” is automatically fetched… time puts stuff there…

Lilly Allen looks so cool. BTW whats with getting into meanings now Saks?

This was like reading myself a couple years ago, really I used to mock and ridicule that word till I actually “experienced” (for lack of a better term) that thing they call closure. No, the heart is definitely not going to turn its switch off the next minute; memories are going to linger on, you’re desperately – or maybe not so much – going to wish for that time to come back. That’s a given.

But if a parallel could be drawn, this is like tying all loose ends up, that there is no resentment/bitterness or grudge to bear, no nagging doubt of “would things be different had I done X instead?”, no things left unsaid.

And time is, in fact a healer, much as it might loom large right now. Except it’s not a rote equation of “oh time has passed = I must be over it”. (I can’t believe I’m saying this – I held a totally contradictory view a few months back – which I think suggests that it does indeed happen).

The only thing I’ve noticed is, the more you try to “move on”, the harder it gets. The stronger you try to be, the more brittle you will end up. If you wallow in it, not hold back tears, cleanse yourself completely (all that when you’re by yourself, of course), one fine day you’ll just be able to smile about it and yes, move on. It’s not like it’ll cease to matter completely, but it will most certainly stop affecting you and getting in the way of existence.

I think that was quite lengthy a comment for a first time here. Thanks for letting me use your space

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Time does not heal any wound !!! And if it does then lucky are those who are healed ! You are right..there is no closure to “genuine” emotion. What you hold in your heart for some one will always remain. People dont move on… the only move away ! Reasons can be many…circumstances can be many too. What i dont believe is that it can turn bitter… it never can. Wonder how this ” someone” becomes “no one” the moment there is a closure???? A person who you’ve loved beyond boundaries…can a relationship like that ever leave behind bitterness?? If it does…then it never was love… it was only “need” . A needs can never be met..coz one will always long for more . And yea…if i find an empty place within me…then i’d like to fill it with more and more love !

the word is overrated

You can call me cynic if you wish but I also do not endorse the notion that time heals all wounds. Because I believe what was once bitter always stays bitter. And time can do jack shit to change that. – Perfect!

if you still find a way to bury the past with some sort of closure, please please let me know. i need the therapy asap just to get over n move on (as if there is some such thing)

Btw, watch Gulaal – I urge thee! You should love it if you liked Dev D and if you loved Dev D, you’ll just begin liking it.. (you’ll understand the comment after seeing Gulaal)

“People dont move on… they only move away !”
i agree with every word Mithya said..There is a very deep meaning in it, more than u can c..If u can really detach urself frm d person u love so easily, then at some point f ur relationship, some aspect of ur feeling wasnt genuine..i still dont understand how can people very conveniently use ‘Bitch/Bastard’ post relationship expiry..
Neways thats all i want to say..rest f it Mithyas post describes things very well..But definitely this love shit is really dicey..

P.S: there might b people with different experience in their relationship..probably they can justify things i cant imagine of..as far as human feelings are concerned we cant generalize it..too much diversity u c..some 3 billion pairs of DNA strands makes things really complex..