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To Each Its Own » Archives » Am I A Hypocrite? — Sat, 26 Jan 2008 12:50:15 +0000

[...] dinner table) – meaning here I am writing multiple posts, informing and thereby asking readers to open their minds when it comes to the Indian Queer Community but in reality shying away from the very thing I have [...]

By: Dr. R.

Dr. R. — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 23:37:14 +0000

I stumbled onto your blog from a link on Desipundit, and then this post was linked to on the front page; so this discussion may be over but ill leave in a couple of words.

My basic contentions with homosexuality (call me homophobic if you like) are:
- Humans, and all animals, are wired to want to have sex. Women have breasts, men develop muscular bodies, and many other traits that are meant to attract the opposite sex. The basic goal of any species is to sustain itself through reproduction; homosexuality goes against that basic instinct. Sex in this case is best a form of recreation, not procreation. By Darwin’s theory, any genetic impetus to have not reproduce means that that should die out, and perhaps if society DOES accept homosexuality as normal, fewer gays will remain closeted, fewer will have kids with heterosexual partners, and that genetic trait will die out. so i have to disagree with you and say that “normal’ is an appropriate way to describe heterosexuals.

- This is the only community that identifies itself based on its sexuality — perhaps its not any worse from dividing people by religion, race, caste, nationality but then you have to acknowledge that sex is a much more important part of their life than it is of the rest. So the assertion that “Not all GAY men are leeches just as not all heterosexual men are rapists.” while true is not as black and white as you put it. The probability of a gay man being a leech is higher and that of a heterosexual man being a leech.

My 2c.

ps: good blog, ill add it my my roll of daily visits.

By: Neeti

Neeti — Fri, 16 Nov 2007 18:10:00 +0000

One of the biggest problems which people tend to overlook in this topic is the risk of transmission of HIV and other STDs. Homosexual couples a) don’t worry about contraception and often abstain from using any method for the same b) have been observed to have multiple partners-I don’t have scientific statistics for these facts but am pretty sure this is true. Also the risk of transmission of HIV is greater in cases of sodomy (homosexual and hetrosexual). Now for the likes who hit on shadows’ friends who maybe on the downlow and never come out [and enjoy hetrosexual privileges ] they get infected, infect their spouse and children born there after.
In Africa, there are large populations orphaned because of HIV…
The archaic law must be changed. If the govt takes an initiative, will the society be forced to accept them as people with different preferences and not as some abnormal species.

By: sirkay

sirkay — Sun, 04 Nov 2007 00:46:39 +0000

hi, it’s interesting to see how guys tackle this all important issue ‘Homosexuality’. I commend you guys. However, i believe this discussion could be helped if anyone has any idea of any which expressely define the rights of individuals concerning their freedom to sexuality. Is it agianst one’s right to engage in any form of sexual behavior with any consenting individual (whether adult or not; married or not)?

By: India

India — Mon, 15 Oct 2007 06:42:53 +0000

You women make me sick. In the name of freedom you cannot go against God’s creation. Women are made for Men and thats the way it should be. Stop aping the west and stick to your cultured roots.

By: really interested...

really interested... — Sun, 14 Oct 2007 18:51:30 +0000

shadows: I have a couple of things to share with you..and anyone else who want to listen….for starters, what is “normal” exactly? You? Me? Who and what? i suppose I’m speaking from personal experience, although i wish you had a good one, i live in australia… reading the views of other people in other countries really made me smile…mostly… I suppose you could say I am bi-sexual, except i really hate that word,,as there is stereotype as everythng else…geez… I am very in love with my BOYfriend now(im a girl), about a year ago i fell madly inlove with a beautiful person…a girl…that was the day that I was so happy to finally be able to be myself, whole.. and then, I told my mum, who had assured me my whole life that no matter what, how or where i was she would accept anything i said..my dad WAS homophobic and I couldnt believe how they took it.. My mum, straight up said, ” dont believe you, you are just confused”. she thought dad would be the same, and so did I, so she asked me to call him during the big fight to tell him and he was so ok with it, he was just worried about us fighting.. But the thing is, we’ve talked about it and I am sorta open with them now..its amazing really, how much they’ve actually grown bringing up me..honestly, after i hit about 14,it would have been so hard for my parents to see me go through a stage of life where i was just trying to find my soul in the totally wrong ways, even though, i regret hurting people close to me by accident.. i could see it and its good because its just like i feel so loved for once in my life,and not even my bf, it all my freinds and family, I love them more than anything else in the world..and the part that means so much to me, and so significant, the angels taking care of me and hopefully everything i hold dear, I wish,oh I wish for a fairy princess..on the same hand, my best friend in whole entire world is homosexual..we talk about absolutely everything..none of my other friends realise he is gay until i tell them..and thats because he thinks the stereotype is redicilous and the selected number wreck the reputation of everybody else,,the thing is..do you know how most homosexual people realise they are infact gay???because they are attracted to masculin men….my mate thinks exactly the same as me…”why act like a queen??”..its not needed..we both think alike though really….basically, your a guy, and you are attracted to the same sex..that means you should purposely act like a chick does it?? Same goes for girls though, I never say i am bi..apparently all girls are these days thats why, but i dot need to announce it…I will ALWAYS loveher though, no matter what..I do believe she was my first REAL love, and i know if we were meant to be together we will end up meeting half way…i want her to meet matt..she will love him..and he will love her:P
..aww i miss them both:( the only word he gets a bit offended by is if u call him a faggot..that is the most dispicable thing anyone could ever do someone…omfg especially him… you know, true blue blokes.. ..but seriously shadows, how can you be so shallow minded?? I think its so sad when men cant come out and they marry,have kids because they feel like they have to, and then come out later on and it shatters there family..and its because people like you who ridicule and who alsoexpects every gay guy wants to fuck you because you are a guy..it doesnt work like that..ive obviously have been friends with girls my whole life and i met the person i was hoping I would… someone who loved me, and yes it was her first female relationship too, I love my boyfriend but i have never ever get over her, she makes my blood rush and a smile to my face…. Niki’s the kind of girl that you never want to leave:),and can’t help but feeling like she need me,all the time:( and you certainly couldn’t forget abputThe moral of this whole statement/opinion: EVERYBODY IS THE SAME..We are all wonderful people and everyone deserves all the respect on world.. no matter what they choose to do with there partners, no matter who they choose.. Love is all around,you just need to except it, and take it all in..let your spiRit soar…(L) It makes me so sad to think there are so many people who are either sooo arroguant or nie’ve that they wont be able to experience the most woderful joys in life…to be free, and to let everyone else be…who they want to be…
With Love and hope for everyone
dont ever forget who you are,you deserve the world…If you want it bad enough,it will bo yours…(L)

By: Broom

Broom — Thu, 04 Oct 2007 10:35:32 +0000

Thanks Sakshi.
I guess parents do that because any fault in their child (not that being gay is a fault!) reflects upon them.

And yaar, I was in bombay – but didn’t want to be “maan na maan main teri mehmaan.” next time – pakka!

By: Saakshi O. Juneja

Saakshi O. Juneja — Thu, 04 Oct 2007 08:57:24 +0000

Broom – Babes, you are welcome to do so…anytime.

ps..Its funny na how parents so effortless-ly blame their child’s faults on to their friends, partners, etc. As if they are in-capable of doing anything against their (parents) wishes and it has to be “someone else’s doing”.

By: Broom

Broom — Thu, 04 Oct 2007 08:41:07 +0000

@Apsara – I thought I had my work cut out for me wrt coming out to my folks, since I’m with a caucasian partner, but knowing the anti-Muslim and especially the anti-Pakistan sentiment that prevails in India, I guess you had it harder! I’m dreading the day I try to explain to my parents why I don’t want to be married to a man again, why I feel so happy and complete with a woman. I suspect that even though they are very educated and kind and wonderful people, their first instinct will be “That white girl has corrupted you” or some such weird argument.
Kudos to you.

@Sakshi – sorry for hijacking your comment space.

By: Saakshi O. Juneja

Saakshi O. Juneja — Thu, 04 Oct 2007 08:05:45 +0000

Dear Apsara,

Firstly I have to commend you for being gutsy enough to come out to your parents. Believe me there are many who continue to live in the closet, just because they aren’t strong enough to face the after-consequences. I guess living away from a conservative society like ours, has its perks. Plus you are lucky to have support of a loving partner.

I totally agree people who aren’t content and comfortable with their own identity…they are the first ones to point their fingers on others even if it is none of their damn business.

Hopefully this attitude will change with time and people would start weighing others on the basis of the humanity and not sexual orientations.

Wishing you the very best…