This is not about numbers or Past is Past, or can you Trust someone who has been through several.. etc.

It is about not ‘falling’ into love. It is about walking into love. Which is what you are already doing – you have put some thought into it.

Someone who can think up to this point – they are safe. No mistakes for you, I think! Trouble lies in wait only for those who can’t even ASK the questions you ask.

IdeaSmith – Babes, I am not talking about simply “dates”, here I mean full-blown relationships. As Amrita mentioned in her comment “If he was involved in several long term relationships and nothing came of it, then i’d wonder what his problem was”.

Th Mad Momma – Yup, me too taken by suprise (shock)…so much concern at times is just too hard to digest.

and really girl!! you need to get over this obsession with marriage… have you noticed the amount of concern for you??… (gasppp) 28 and not married and writing such provocative posts!!! :p

If he was involved in several long term relationships and nothing came of it, then i’d wonder what his problem was. I mean there are commitment issues and then there’s commitment phobia.

But once you’ve made up your mind that this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, you have to close your eyes and make the jump. It’s tough, which is why I’m still unmarried today

There is nothing called monogamy. Human beings were never meant to be monogamous. Forget what our elders or religious leaders tell us. If anyone claims that he/she is totally dedicated to his wife/husband, then its nothing but a plain load of bullcrap. He/she is just trying to save his/her backside. Simple.

Marriage is just a game of chance. Get into a relationship with an open mind. Dont try to change your partner. Accept a person for what he/she is and everything will be fine. If your partner truly loves you, they will change and vice versa.

I was what you call a “serial lover” one at one point of time in my life. Had 3 GFs at the same time in the same city. No one suspected anything and i was never caught. I got bored and kept moving on to other girls/women. I finally met my match in the hands of a girl who i came to know later was a “serial lover” herself.

Bas….hisaab baraabar.

My friend always says this. “Aadmi kiske liye jeeta hai? Pet ke liye aur pet ke neeche ke liye”. I find that statement perfect.

To answer your question above. Yes, i dont mind getting into serious relationship concluding in a marriage with a woman who has had a colorful past. That doesnt mean that iam willing to accept a HIV+ woman. Let’s not kid ourselves. Iam not Jesus Christ, nor do i intend to be.

Sorry, i used up a lot of ur blog space

PS: How does one set a boundary for this? So people with 4 serious relationships are ok but not 5… If 4 is ok, then why not u being the 5th. Setting such boundaries is BS IMHO.

Doesn’t it all really depend upon what you want?

If what you want is an exclusive life-long relationship, then a serial lover is a bad idea. After the number of relationships crosses a certain figure, one has to conclude that this person either does not want, or is in capable of having a exclusive committed relationship.

But then it is not necessary that every one wants a relationship that is exclusive or life-long. You could really relax either one or both of those requirements and then be perfectly happy with the serial lover. In fact, it would probably be significantly more exciting and possibly romantic than a rock steady relationship. Because, you can’t really feel a thrill unless there is some danger, some risk. A walk in the park is not really exciting. Jumping off a cliff with a bungee cord tied to your ankle is.

The main thing that makes life complicated is that many people don’t really know what they want. Or, they want contradictory things – i.e. stability as well as the excitement. If you had to choose, what would you choose? Really, it is not an easy choice – as is obvious from Sakshi’s own struggle between the need to assert her individuality and the longing to find a suitable husband (sorry, couldn’t resist