Being of marriageable age, I am bombarded with numerous questions and suggestions from family and friends. When will you marry?? Are you seeing someone?? You won’t find good family boys, if you delay it any further !! So what you don’t like the guy…the family status and money is important !! and the pathetic list goes on and on….
It’s amazing and at times very amusing to see that more than my immediate family, it’s others as in my neighbours and door ke rishteydaars who are fuckin more eager to dance and fart at my wedding ceremonies. It’s not that I am against the whole ‘arranged marriage’ concept…I sincerely believe that it is great and over the recent years..the whole idea of an arranged marriage has changed for good. The issue that pinches the most in the butt is that I never thought that I would ever ever ever need the help of others to find my other half. Always firmly believed that I would find my soulmate on my own and that the minute we meet…thousands of alarm clocks would go on in heart…indicating that our time has come. But today, here I am questioning my search and wait for someone who may not exist in reality, maybe the whole soulmate thingy is just load of crap.
Throughout centuries, story tellers, and people from different background and cultures always refer to their fascination in meeting one day their soul mates. But I wonder, Is Soul Mate a myth? Do they really exist? Or is Soul Mate a figment of our own imagination that can help keep our hope for a perfect relationship and keep our hope alive. Or is it an escape way for not handling or not looking at ourselves in such a way that we keep delaying our responsibilities and things can be fixed when we meet that perfect relationship with those Soul Mates.
I blame my belief in soulmates on our Bollywood movies and tons of ‘Mills and Boons’ novels (which I confess I read alot in my teeny bopper age)….because it is very romantic to think that there is someone out there who fits us perfectly. But when you look at it logically…in a population of billions what are the chances of finding that one person, it would be easier to find a hair strand in a bucket of doggy poo than that.
Maybe it is true that the soulmate phenomenon is just another hogwash just like Santa Claus and the Tooth Fairy! Silly childhood dreams that make it impossible for us to find our way in this world if not equally tempered by stories of faith, giving and hard work!
Or was I was all along looking at the concept of ‘soulmate’ in a completely wrong way. Maybe the best way to look at this issue is to separate the idea of soulmate and romance. Soulmates need not be your partner/spouse! Because if we think that way then there will be so many soulmates…i.e. everytime you think you have found the one!
It would be easier if one understood that anyone who touches our heart and head alike, be it in romantic sense or otherwise qualifies to be our soulmate. Very rarely do we allow people to touch our heart and mind…so the people who do cross all the barriers we build and touch us are indeed special. It would be wiser to believe that we do not have one soulmate…instead have many…these are people in my life who make our life complete…then they maybe family, friends or colleague…
everything else: Vellithira, a blog on Malayalam movies, music and arts talks about Kavya – the only remaining actress in the Malayalam industry. Or probably you would like to read about Sakshi’s views onsoul mates. Or if you belong to Mumbai or any other metro then you could identify with housing societies and how they cheat people as Navin explains here. Or if you belong to Delhi, you would be familiar with Ricks. Lijo recalls
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