Comments on: Evil within the four walls

By: sarkar

sarkar — Mon, 04 Jun 2007 11:06:52 +0000

To female commentators, please donot run your sob stories to push for invalid cause. Bring on your husbands and let them have a say alongside and truth can only be revealed then. A statistical study shows that women initiate violence in more than 50% of cases and they are 9 times more likely to report it than men. My wife beat me and then filed a case that i beat her mercilessly even when i did not even touch her. I can easily assume how gravely you must have tormented your husbands for him to have acted in self defense and punished you for your mis-deeds(and that is if you are speaking lie). His retaliation was because of suppression he faces from society. If he goes out to society, it ridicules him that he can not handle his wife. He sees no laws to protect him from your onslaughts and bickering. When he is pushed to wall, he has no choice but to act in self defense which you bunch portray as your sob-stories.

Sakshi , you are incorrect in data reporting on more than one occasions….
The study(which happened in 1998-99 and not in 2003 as you stated) which reported 56% women agree that it is ok for man to act in defense if women committed such and such acts also said that only 11% women(and that too most are from lower strata of society) per year are subjected to any DV. The report does not take into account the fact that women initiate violence in more than half of cases and hence men who act in self defense are also categorized as perpetrators.

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By: geetha sree

geetha sree — Fri, 02 Mar 2007 08:09:42 +0000

this law was not enough to secure the woman’s life. now a days the voilence in the Indian society is very high , it’s just intorallarable.
the Indian women is unable to lead her life in a satisfactory manner.
eaven female children also face the voilence by the family members. they face education problems,marriege problems etc. they don’t filfil their ambitions, desires.
A married woman sacrifice her total life tothe entier family. but the male members of the family can’t identify her services,and ignor her with an arragent manner.it is very painfull toher physically, mentally.
the law must reforms and gave compleatly protection to the harassed one.

By: interim thoughts...: October 2005

interim thoughts...: October 2005 — Mon, 19 Feb 2007 15:04:36 +0000

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By: madhu

madhu — Fri, 17 Mar 2006 20:28:35 +0000

My sister is going through the same kind of torture. Hers is a love marriage and the guy and his father keep on asking for money. today he even broke her magalsutra and gave it to her saying that my parents had bought that for her. i feel there is no future to this repaltionship.
but i know that because of the pressure of the society they will go to live together. i dont wanna tell anything becuase i feel any decision should be taken by them and should not be influenced by anyone

By: amsoconfused

amsoconfused — Tue, 07 Mar 2006 06:39:38 +0000

dear all, thanks for writing in on this coz this issue is very close to my heart. MEN don’t even have a right to comment on this issue coz they will never understand. Its fine to say that some women might misuse the law but much more often than not its women only who bear the brunt of domestic violence. and yes if you feel i’m a feminist then so be it but a LAW NEEDS to be enacted wherein a man is tied to a pole and stoned to death if he so much as lifts his hand to beat a woman

Bhumi, I totally empathise with you. A very evry close friend of mine is going through the same thing. but in her case i’m the only person who knows what she’s actually going thru. she can’t even share it with her parents for the same reasons- they’ll not be able to take it and will mostly not support her also. my heart breaks everytime she’s abused- meantally or physically but i get very irritated also coz she’s not standing up against it.

i think what is of prime importance is financial independence for women whih is in the woman’s own hands. never ever should we be financially dependent on anyone- it makes taking decisions in life easier. secondly i feel we indians bother too much about society and what ppl say. I say F_ _ K people. they don’t matter coz they don’t really care about you……….

By: bhumi

bhumi — Mon, 05 Dec 2005 10:38:24 +0000

dear Sakshi,
i read ur article and felt as if i am reading my own story.
when i went bak to my husband’s house after the so called compromise they were good to me for sometime but later on again he started beating and abusing me.
although i am earning myself ,till date i have no financial fredom nor do i have a right to contact my parents in my husband’s absence.
i really don’t know why i am unable to gather courage and speak up against this man, may be i am worried abt what my parents will go thru if i speak up.
i feel the girl that u mentioned abt also went thru similar pressure and sakshi i must tell u that in such a situation it is very difficult to take some decision.
well all i can say is that i am still trying to gather courage and someday i surely will.

By: Wasif

Wasif — Sat, 12 Nov 2005 07:50:27 +0000

No one is blaming the entire women community of nefarious intents, its only directed towards evil women. The point we are trying to draw is that equal number of men, if not more, are victims of domestic violence as there are women. No women organisation, government or concerned feminists are willing to admit it. The laws are being framed to address the plight of women and not men. The laws are passed assuming and presuming so many things, that defies the basic framework of just society.
There is a precedence of wide spread misuse of utterly biased laws, which unfortunately, they don’t want to admit, for reasons best known to them. Saying that laws are equally being misused by men and women, tell me one law that is being misused by men against women and why isn’t there any mention by women organisation for any such law.

Its very sad and disheartening to observe that the very men who are helping women attain equality in society, are being branded criminals.

If women want to attain equality, they have to understand that playing blame game wouldn’t help the cause. At some point of time, they have toadmit the facts and realities, else, feminism would be out of fashion, as has happened in western society.

By: sakshi

sakshi — Sat, 15 Oct 2005 06:47:15 +0000

Bharati- Firstly thanks for leaving a comment and stopping by my blog.

Now in regards to your survey, I don’t think the bill is ignoring 50-60% of men, the problem here is the SOME women are mis-using the law and because of that SOME men suffer. BUT then there are MEN too who have and are finding loop holes in the justice system for their advantage.

Regarding the Right of Residence, I do not agree with you. Yes, the women can buy a seperate house but that can happen only if the husband is willing to pay partly for it. A women’s contribution cannot be judged on the basis of the monetary income she gets to the house. She does in-deed put her sweat and blood in the house…in MANY other ways. I think this is simply unfair- and biased.

As for the seriousness of trauma, well over the years there have been thousands of women who have been killed or have killed themselves after marriage..be it for dowry problems, infedality by husband, leech minded inlaws, rape, etc. You seem to have forgotten this aspect.

The women is not depending on someone else’s sweat, she is just asking for what is rightfully hers.

In-short, there are men and women who have taken our legal system for a ride. To blame the entire women clan for it is not RIGHT.