Comments on: Live-in relationship Vs. Marriage

By: Jean

Jean — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 11:06:45 +0000

thanks a lot for that information…

marriage is really good but before you will go into it… you should make it sure that the person you are going to marry is the right person that God has given to you, the person that you love and loves you. marriage is a commitment that is why we should be careful in choosing the right one to avoid divorce.

marriage is good because it is beneficial to the children, the man and woman and unto the society. Another reason is that it leads us to a good health, happiness and security.

on the hand living in relationship leads us to a Bad Habit and impression because if we already try it we are addicted to it and wenever we are into relationship we always think that we can easily find a partner to replace of, from discontentment up to frustration and then suicide.

if you are into living in relationship, it is better for you not to have a child because your child is the one who supper everything you did.

By: Kiran

Kiran — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 18:31:49 +0000

Hi, In my last post, I would like to add that as mentioned by Rajesh, I fully agree that people expect those assembly system steps in a persons life. Especially if the girls age is more and is still single, people ask her about marriage hundred times. To be frank I really get annoyed if someone asks me about marriage. I like the western systems. But not all people have the same views about livein. Those who are happy in their married life (who luckily found a GOOD PARTNER !!) will favour the institution of marriage. While people who have failed in Marriage will support the livein system. I hope all the ladies will agree with me. I am supporting livein because I had a bad marriage as he was violent. If I would have stayed with him, I would have come to know about his behaviour before marriage. I FULLY SUPPORT LIVEIN SYSTEM.
Regards, Ms. Kiran

By: SAGAR TRIVEDI (srt)

SAGAR TRIVEDI (srt) — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 07:54:52 +0000

in marriage we can build relationship better than live -in relationship.
MARRIAGE IS LIKE A WE CAN GET BEETER STTTUS ALSO IN ASOCIETY. AFTER ALL WE ALL ARE LIVE IN SOCIETY. AND OUR SOCIETY NOT GIVVVING US A RIGHT TO BUILD LIVE IN RELATIONSHIP.
WE CAN GET A BETER STSTUS IN A SOCIETY.

By: SAGAR TRIVEDI

SAGAR TRIVEDI — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 07:42:02 +0000

i think that marriage is better than live in relationship.
by considering marriage we can know each others feelongs better than live in. in marriage person ready for help his or her partner always.

By: Hitesh

Hitesh — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 05:05:47 +0000

I feel deep down if I am given a state of comfortness with the points thoughtfully laid down by the author,it would be a gift i will be eternally grateful for.I mean while reading them if nothing irks under my skin then i will be a happier person irrespective of whether I marry,live-in,stay single,marry several women,or marry a woman for whom i am not the only husband.Ok oK i know blood boils to hear some of these options,but strangely there is a voice in me that says,hey u got your entire life to figure this out or you could do it now and live a way happier life than others.

Think about it the one who is secure in the knowledge that he/she is INSEcure in a huge way,that actually they could win a contest of insecurity if there was one.I know there are times when i could proudly bring the Mr.Universe of insecurity contest to India

I am talking about insecurity regarding my financial status,Educational qualifications,Career ladder position,Societal staus and don’t even talk about how I feel about my body this category insecurity award goes to me what do i hear someone challenging mua in this koyee hai idhar who can take away my “the most insecure about their looks person” award

Thanks Sakshi ! U did bring out some skeletons out of my closet(it’s a big closet hehe)

By: davang shah

davang shah — Sun, 15 Feb 2009 05:54:41 +0000

and interesting post there, i must say…

i don’t quite see that as much of a “choice” factor – espescially the urban “cultural inhabitants” wouldn’t, i think…

the idea of whether it is vice-versa isn’t really the point of the story – it’s what AFTER…

coz eventually, yes I agree the stigmata of a divorce is far greater than just a “break-up” (not necessariliy in that order on an emotional level) – would that fear make you rather

By: RAJESH

RAJESH — Sat, 07 Feb 2009 18:50:01 +0000

Friends Lets assume I just need a partner with whom I can share a perfectly platonic relationship without a stifling relationship called “marriage” . I don’t like kids nor does she like kids. Then why cant we live together for a certain period of time? Why does India need to get into a stifling relationship like marriage. India is a crazy country. People have to complete their education by 21 get a job by 23 and get married by 27-28 , have the first kid at 30 yrs the second at 35. What is this a bloody assembly process??? No other country follows this nonsense. Anyway marriages are no longer made in heaven for a plethora of reasons. We are already a billion people and we need to think differently like moving into a commune or have live-in relaltionships

By: parekh

parekh — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 15:19:54 +0000

i am thinking of the act that’s they are going to pass by maharashtra govt.
there will be many problem with this, if the act passed. firstly it wlll hit provision which is enclosed in indian penal code i.e. begamy.

once can argued that mohmedean can keep 4 wive than why not hindu.?

but , your will suffer lot coz u dont have capacity to handle your own wife nicely and carefully.

hey dont, get angry wid me….!!!

By: Rajinder Saini

Rajinder Saini — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 06:12:54 +0000

The world has changed so has India. The easy way to sort out your problems and to have companionship is the live-in relationship. Beside live-in relationship arrangement In europe or in countries like japan and korea people do get married but do not produce children children because un-security of the jobs. I know a number of people in europe and in the far east having been married for several years but have not planned families because of many reasons. The basic idea of two individual staying together is not sex but to sort out their problems of living in big cities and also to share expenses. The sex is a later part of it and not a priority/

By: Debalina

Debalina — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 06:42:55 +0000

To begin with, Salam Namaste wasn’t the first film on live-in relation. You might want to watch Ijaazat starring Rekha, Nasiruddin Shah and Anuradha Patel.
Now, to your arguments and questions, well, seriously the live-in relation can be for many reasons, so lets not have presumptions on that.
I have friends in Mumbai who are in live-in relationship because of the lack of affordable and proper flats.
I have others in Bangalore who are in live-in because it helps them to know each other well even before they think of committing.
I am in a live-in relation cause I think marriage is :
-is expensive
– complicates things because it not just involves two of us, but also families of us.
If we decide that things are not working, we can move on without the hassles of divorce and other social pressures related to it.
Recently, a law was passed that love-child due to a live-in relation will have equal rights as the child due to marriage, so I don’t have to think about the problems my child might have faced otherwise.
Again, for both of us, living in the same city, away from home, it does brings down the expenses a little, as compared to staying alone in separate flats and meeting up.
Now, about the institution of marriage !
Many people don’t even understand the vows and chants that they promise to fulfill for their entire lifetime. And yet, there’s infidelity, raping wives and other such problems related to it.
And when marriage becomes so sour and bitter that you just can’t have it any more, you can’t leave and move on with your life easily, because it takes more than 6 months to get a mutual divorce and forever in the other cases. It leaves you tired and pocket burned and mentally weak and then many wives decides to continue with the man they wanted to stay away from (the husband).
Marriage is not just complicated and expensive affair in itself, it brings more complications and expenses and relations along with it.
And seriously, I don’t need a society to approve of my love towards someone by tying a knot.
Moreover, one can be rest assured that couples in love and in live-in relation are more likely to have a stronger bond than the married couples because its by choice, unlike marriage which is by compulsion.
And this whole thing has nothing to do with “Modern Indian” with “Western Values” or with the “BPO” but has everything to do with old, dreaded and overtly prioritized (by most ) so called values and culture.

And your comparison of live-in relation with a Car for test drive is extremely disgusting to say the least.

Before I finish, where did Mr. Aman get his (an assumption here) schooling ?